I’m sure you all can tell I love dark humor as a coping skill. I really must commend this couple for their creativity and humor in raising visibility and in finding a fun way to accept life for the wrench-throwing jester that it is. And they found their own best solution! Adoption, assisted reproduction, skillful “giving up” (e.g. finding alternative ways to create your life’s meaning and/or contribute to others), raising kids in a different way (e.g. volunteering, stepparenting, being a major support in the life of a child who needs one), finding the silver lining in not having children… all excellent responses to the major curveball of infertility.
See their infertility announcements here!
The embryology lab called me this morning and told me that they were able to freeze 9 embryos! This incredibly fertile woman just keeps impressing me more and more! Really hope this is a good sign that the two embryos I’m chilling out with at the moment will stick around. I’m in the midst of drinking some sort of disgusting green juice so I can be all healthy for them or whatever, so they’d better appreciate this sacrifice. Read More »
I was just reading an article about the “baby deadline test,” which is apparently the media’s new nickname for the Anti-Müllerian Hormone test. That’s the blood test I took at my diagnostic visit that was an indicator of the amount of eggs I had left. Although it’s been used for a while to help diagnose infertility, apparently it’s got a new use: helping any woman predict how long she can realistically wait to start trying to get pregnant, and/or whether she’s a good candidate for egg freezing. Read More »
Our donor’s egg retrieval was yesterday and I got the update call this morning. They retrieved 29 eggs, 19 of which were mature enough to inject sperm into, and 17 fertilized properly and are now zygotes! WOW! That is awesome!! Unless things go horribly awry somehow, they expect I’ll have a good amount of 5-day-old embryos (aka blastocysts) from which to choose the best-looking two, and probably a bunch to freeze for subsequent cycles (if necessary) or donation to another recipient(s)/research (if a baby happens this time!). Read More »
Long ago (ok, like eight years ago), my ex-husband got into watching the show It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia on FX. I thought it was absolutely heinous. It was basically a show in which every single character was an incredibly, unapologetically horrible person.
Then, as with many shows I eventually grew to like, the more I endured hearing it in the background, the more I had to bite the bullet and admit that I was kind of a horrible person, too, because I had started to find it hilarious. Read More »
My new donor is everything I want. She doesn’t look as crazy as the other ones! She isn’t a carrier for genetic disorders, she passed all her psychological and FDA testing requirements, and has the cleanest bill of health across three generations that I can possibly fathom. She’s donated before and was willing to do so again on incredibly short notice, so she’s unlikely to back out or screw the whole thing up. Read More »
Scientific advances have opened up a plethora of new family-building possibilities during the past three decades. Prior to that, infertile couples could either choose to adopt/foster or choose to not become parents (of course, there were always people who got creative – hell, there’s even a story about that in the Bible). Those options remain, along with medical interventions such as intra-uterine insemination, in vitro fertilization, donated gametes, gestational surrogacy, fertility medication, gamete cryopreservation, and reproductive surgery. Read More »
Looking for an egg donor is like the weirdest possible online dating. It’s quite similar in many ways. The women provide photos and write a profile that contains information about their physical characteristics, personality, interests, background, career, education, drinking habits, sexual orientation, what they do for fun, and a few stories about their experiences. Read More »
Today we experienced a setback when we found out that our donor did not pass her FDA-required infectious disease screening and is now disqualified from continuing our cycle. Tomorrow, I’ll speak with the doctor about what we should do next. As I understand it, our options are to choose a new donor who is able to start her cycle pretty much immediately; ditch this cycle, stop taking my meds, choose a new donor, wait for her to be available, start my meds all over again, and pray that nothing goes wrong this time; or order frozen eggs from an egg bank again. Read More »
I’ve been experiencing a lot of difficulty at my job. I’ve worked at the same place for almost three years, but many transitions have been occurring since July 2015. I began my first faculty position, the college of medicine where I work was purchased by a corporation, and they built and transferred me to a new clinic funded by the state’s behavioral health authority. Read More »