Guess Who’s Here! Or: The Odyssey

Finally, the kid has arrived! A brand new person was born at 9:01am on December 31, 2016 🙂 Now he’s laying beside me, looking around, chewing on his sleeve, occasionally sneezing, at 2:30am. Parenthood!

I’m trying not to do that thing where I tell everyone my harrowing birth story, totally unsolicited. I feel like you should sign a consent form to hear that kind of thing. So, by continuing to read, you indicate that you have read the above information and you voluntarily agree to participate. Read More »

It’s Been A While!

Hi there! I’ve been missing in action! But, I thought I’d pop back in and say hello. Honestly, I haven’t been able to think about much to write. I just don’t feel like my pregnancy has been too different than the norm, and this blog was intended to focus on third-party reproduction, something that’s out of the norm. Now I’m just a regular pregnant lady. Which, I suppose, is exactly what I wanted to be!

Also, most of my posts would be complaining about pregnancy symptoms, Read More »

Apprentice vs. Master Craftsman

I think this is kind of an early Fathers’ Day post.

I like to read articles about what your man should know about your pregnancy and taking care of a newborn (yes, it’s always “your man.” Never “your woman,” or “your partner” or even “your partners,” of course). I get halfway through the article, think “Why am I reading this? He knows all this stuff,” and then realize I’m reading it because I’m the one who doesn’t know all that stuff.

The other day, I found out that you’re not supposed to give an infant water to drink. Read More »

Special Snowflakes

First, fair warning… this post is just chock full o’ morbid musings. Something that’s been on my mind lately is the question of “What do we do with our other embryos, and when do we do it?” When you use donor eggs, you sign a very long contract (I’m guessing you sign one for any assisted reproduction procedure, really). It gives you an overview of different procedures, risks, and options.

One section covers the disposition of stored embryos. Read More »

Good News is Here!

Here is the awesome thing I got to post on Facebook the other day!

“Not many kids can say they were a five-day-old embryo in their first baby photo. But my kid can!! I can’t wait to become a mom, right smack dab in the middle of the holidays! (Sorry ’bout that birthday, kiddo).

I am grateful to the doctors and clinic staff who helped, and for the generosity of our egg donor. But, most of all, I am thankful for [husband], whose love for me, love of children, kindness, and let’s face it, unfathomable indulgence made this possible 💘”

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IT WORKED, FINALLY! It’s still pretty hard to believe. I’ve had a couple of ultrasounds now, though, so of course, it’s also hard not to believe. I am about 8 weeks 4 days.

I did end up testing early, for the first time – I dutifully waited for the blood test the first two times I did transfers. Read More »

Infertility Announcements

I’m sure you all can tell I love dark humor as a coping skill. I really must commend this couple for their creativity and humor in raising visibility and in finding a fun way to accept life for the wrench-throwing jester that it is. And they found their own best solution! Adoption, assisted reproduction, skillful “giving up” (e.g. finding alternative ways to create your life’s meaning and/or contribute to others), raising kids in a different way (e.g. volunteering, stepparenting, being a major support in the life of a child who needs one), finding the silver lining in not having children… all excellent responses to the major curveball of infertility.

See their infertility announcements here!

http://www.someecards.com/parenting/pregnancy/infertility-announcements-spencer-and-whitney-blake/

How to Honor Stepmoms on Mother’s Day

I love this post by stepmomincognito! I am so happy that my husband and stepchildren always make me feel appreciated, and that my husband is taking me out to Mothers’ Day brunch. I’m very grateful that my husband and his kids were a package deal, because they’re all so awesome.

Stepmom Warrior, LLC

Mother’s Day is just around the corner. For stepmoms and their husbands this can be a tricky day to navigate. Emotions can run high. Anxiety can brew.Bio-moms are often recognized, while stepmoms can be overlooked. I attended a church service last Sunday where they were holding a parenting seminar. The pastor kept mentioning mothers and fathers and not once mentioned stepmoms and stepdads. In the greeting card aisle there are hundreds of options for bio-moms, while stepmoms get only a few. Autocorrect doesn’t recognize “stepmoms” as a word. This comes as no surprise. And stepmoms are by no means trying to take credit for carrying a baby for nine months and taking part in the birthing process. We get it. We’re not the bio-mom. However, we are in a mothering role and we deserve to be recognized.

Flowers, gifts, chocolate, wine, and tokens of appreciation are always nice but what


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Schrödinger’s Embryos

Ahh, ’tis right smack in the middle of the dreaded Two Week Wait! (2ww)

I believe this phrase is appropriated from TTC (“trying to conceive”) message boards. I’ve landed on those once or twice during moments of googlemania, and let me tell you what, there’s a lot more sex going on in those than there are on the assisted reproductive technology-focused boards! There is never any sex on those boards!(Though there’s a decent amount of reference to male partners giving samples. I hear that’s not as sexy as it sounds, though). Read More »

The Phantom Of The Opera Is There Inside Your Womb

The embryology lab called me this morning and told me that they were able to freeze 9 embryos! This incredibly fertile woman just keeps impressing me more and more! Really hope this is a good sign that the two embryos I’m chilling out with at the moment will stick around. I’m in the midst of drinking some sort of disgusting green juice so I can be all healthy for them or whatever, so they’d better appreciate this sacrifice. Read More »